From public displays of affection to getting creative in the bedroom, we're all looking for ways to turn our men on (those go-to moves are great but can get a bit boring) and keep things interesting in the sack. In this entry I'm sticking strictly to the women, handing out a few ideas as to what you can do to keep him in constant wonder and keep up with how the Big Girls do it in the real world.

Let's face it, we've all had that moment when we're making out or getting intimate that we've been self conscious about our weight, what to do with our hands, if we're good kissers. You can say 'nah, not me!' but the fact is, ladies, you have. :) So, we'll address four very important things in this entry.

Kisses.
Condoms.
Using your weight to your advantage.
Avoiding the 'Hand' Dilemma.

Kissing -- The Simple Step

There are, of course, different types of kisses. Open mouthed kisses, french kisses, sloppy kisses, cute kisses, etc... and sometimes it can be hard to choose which one is the best kind of the situation. Your best bet is to do what your mind is telling you to do; don't think, just do!

Pressing open mouthed kisses along your man stomach and chest will set off little sparks because of the nerves in the stomach and on this sensitive area. If he laughs and says it tickles, just press a bit harder and the kiss will have the desired effect!

French kisses can turn into sloppy kisses very easily. If you're not a fan of having your man's slobber all over you during a hot make out session, then the trick is to gently pull away when he's getting a little too "trigger happy" with his tongue. This will, generally, let him know he's being a bit too forceful about the kiss and he should tone it down a bit. If this doesn't work, pull away (again, gently) and trail your kisses from the corner of his lips (there are tons of nerve endings in the skin around his lips, and yours!) to the bottom of his earlobe, down to his neck, and then go for the lips again. Slow the pace down and his saliva levels may go down a bit.


Cute kisses are my personal favorite. These kisses are fun, quick, playful and let your man know you're ready to have a good time. Simply press a few kisses, spacing them a few seconds apart each, to his lips and then pull away. He'll be expecting another kiss, and when you don't give it to him it will only make him want more.

And that's the point right?
Making him want more? ;)

Condoms -- the most important, safe, step.

Choosing a brand of condom, a flavor, a texture, an amount can be very frustrating. You aren't sure what you'll get every time in Variety Packs, and how do you know for sure which brand is the most reliable? Not only can you find resources here on my blog about the brand of condom to use, but you can go to http://www.durex.com for more information. This website, along with my own, will help you make the right decision.

Personally I will not use Trojan brand condoms. I've heard too many testimonies that they break easily, so I don't trust them. Durex is what my boyfriend and I use, we've never had a problem with them before. They come in a variety of flavors, textures, colors and have been deemed the most reliable brand. Check their linked website above for the complete details.

Using a condom is important, the right kind will not desensitize the sensation of sex for you or your man. Durex makes a brand called Avanti Bare and it feels like there's not even a condom on. Flavored condoms are not for any girl who doesn't like to go down on her guy, what fun is a flavored penis if you can't enjoy it? (LOL) Also, if you don't want the smell of whatever flavor the condom is, stay clear. Durex flavored condoms have an extremely strong scent.

Please remember that condoms are not 100% effective in preventing STDs, HIV/AIDS, and pregnency. Read the pamphlet inside of the box of condoms to see the proper way to put on the condom and to determine the right fit. Durex also has two or three different sizes, so generally you're covered.

Forget the negativity -- Use your weight to your advantage.

Women all over the world worry about their weight and how the look during sex. Contrary to popular opinion, big girls can have fantastic sex! Throw those inhibitions away and get wild girls! You can use your weight to your advantage and wow your man with your new found confidence.

Personally I've never had a more attentive boyfriend, someone who is 100% into my body and how I look and feel. He loves my weight and we have amazing sex that lasts for hours on end. Simply rub against him, let your guy feel how soft and smooth your body is with whatever extra weight you have on it. The sensation of your skin with that slight bit of friction will cause his jaw to drop, and it's something you'll like the feeling of too! Don't let the negativity get to you, girls, if your man is happy with you and happy with your sex life, you shouldn't worry!

Try something new and fun, I garuntee he'll like it! ;)

And now, drum roll please!!

-Insert drum sounds here-

The Hand Dilemma -- What in the hell do we do with our hands?!

Have you ever had that really cute moment with your man and then there are your hands, hanging lifelessly from your arms? Yeah, it's not cute! Girls, unless you have rugged or rough hands your man will enjoy you carressing his face, arms, back, neck, shoulders, or body with them! Don't worry about where to put them, just touch a place and go from there! ;)

Sex sells, ladies and gentlemen, and believe it or not plus size women of the world can have an amazing sex life just like any other girl. These tips, however, don't just apply to any girl with a little extra weight. Any one can use these tips.

Have fun.
Be safe!

;)

Sincerely,
The Fat Girl

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